‘You can have what you want’.
When I was first faced with this statement, I found myself getting absolutely furious! The fury was so out of proportion that I knew something else was interfering. I was arguing madly for why exactly I could not have what I wanted, at the same time as wondering what on earth I was doing! On the surface, it seems such an obvious statement. For me, though, it represented a realm of possibility that I found immensely scary.
How do you react to it? Do you think, ‘Oh fantastic!’ Or ‘Of course!’ Perhaps there’s something in between like, ‘Mmm – what exactly do I want anyway?’ Or maybe you already know. If you find you’re having difficulty with this statement like I did, then ask yourself the (more...)
Who’s Running Your Life, You or Your Circumstances?
Assuming YOU’D rather be in charge of your life than your circumstances, then ‘noticing’ is a crucial skill to develop. Thoughts and feelings you’re unaware of will run your life for you unless you notice them, and sometimes even the ones you notice will dominate unless you put yourself in charge of them! Cultivating the part of yourself that is more detached and can observe or witness your thoughts and feelings is crucial to you being in charge.
FTC – Feelings, Thoughts, Choosing
With noticing, you bring yourself the freedom of choice, and with choice, you have the possibility of making a conscious decision to focus on more of what you want. At this point, YOU demonstrate being in charge. In any given situation, (more...)