RTWay Week I September 2010

Inside Out Goal Setting

Notes and Inspired Actions.

If you haven’t done the Passion and Purpose exercise, which helps you to provide a context for what you want, and discover what that is, then click here

And remember — list what you don’t want, and then the opposite of that, to get closer to what you do want.

Three Layers of Reality

Top: Human being level, ego, personality, level of separation

Middle: Level of universal Qualities, such as Compassion, Love, Sincerity, Integrity, Forgiveness etc. Also the realm of unseen beings, angels, spirit guides etc

Bottom: Level of Source, All-is-Oneness, God, the Divine. No separation, just unity

Be willing to consider there is a parallel reality alongside what you are currently experiencing. Choose to tune into that. Be willing to receive information from the version of you that exists in this parallel reality. Like tuning into a different channel on a radio, where you let yourself experience right now what you are wanting.

Breathing in for 8 hold for 4, out for 8. Count back from 10 –1 to move into parallel reality. Beginning to let go, breathing out, etc. Beginning to relax, coming into another place. Now in a place where all things are possible.

1. Decide on what to focus on: something you want that you haven’t already got. No judgment. Just observation and uncritical curiosity. Allowing answer to come to you.
2. Focus using all your senses
3. Focus on how it will feel to have what you want (the essence). Imagine what one of your days would be like having this. First thoughts on waking? How is it different when you get up? What doing at luncthime? Afternoon? Evening? How do you feel? Would your routine be different? You already have what you want – how do you feel? End of day writing in your journal or notebook about the things you’re grateful for. How does it feel at end of day, you’ve already got what you want, its been a great day.
4. Noticing feelings, anchoring them with forefinger and thumb.
5. Come out of meditation and focus on ways you can be, or experience more of that essence now and on a daily basis. Count up from 1 – 10. Away from parallel reality, having anchored those feelings in your body.

Be, Do, Have

We are nearly always focused in this world on getting something from out there, that will make us feel better in here, and then we will be the person we want to be. This is backwards. Instead of have, do, be, i.e. get the money, do the things that people with money do, and then I’ll be happy, BE, DO, HAVE turns it on it’s head. So you start with being happy, you do things that are in line with keeping you feeling happy, and then you find that you have attracted things or experiences that are also in line with you being that which you said you wanted to be. This is why the traditional method of goal setting or making resolutions so often doesn’t really work. Even if people do get to the top of the ladder and achieve the car, or the house, or the more money, they often find it doesn’t really bring them what they thought it would bring them. No wonder people end up feeling unfulfilled, distressed and going for more and more stuff.

Being who you want to be first: ask yourself:

• What would I be doing if I was feeling …….?
• What would it look like?
• What inspired action would make me feel like this?
• What would it look like if I woke up and decided to cultivate …… today?
• Who do you want to be today? (Sets your tone for the day)

Difference between goals and intentions: choose which word works for you, and use it to help you focus on what you want more of.

Quote from Neale Donald Walsch in Conversations with God, book 3:

First you ‘be’ the thing you call ‘happy’ (or ‘knowing’ or ‘wise’ or ‘compassionate’ or whatever) then you start ‘doing’ things from this place of beingness – and soon you discover that what you are doing winds up bringing you the things you‘ve always wanted to ‘have’.

The way to set this creative process (and that’s what this is…the process of creation) into motion is to look at what it is you want to ‘have’, ask yourself what you think you would ‘be’ if you ‘had’ that, then go straight to being.

In this way you reverse they way you’ve been using the Be-Do-have paradigm — in actuality, set it right – and work with, rather than against the creative power of the Universe. Here is a short way of stating this principle: In life you do not have to do anything. It is all a question of what you are being”.

Inspired Actions:

1. Start tomorrow with a TO BE list, rather than your usual TO do list. Ask: If I want to BE more of this, what can I do to have these feelings? Set your tone for the day, and then act accordingly.
2. What I Did List — at the end of the day, make a list of what you have accomplished, rather than looking at what you have still got to do. Take time to honour yourself for what you have done and celebrate it!
3. Practice the Inside Out Goal Setting Method with anything you say you want more of.