RT Way Feelings Wk 8: The flow of abundance

CLASS NOTES AND RECORDING

The flow of abundance in your business: receiving and allowing

Intro: Allowing and Receiving

1. Five states of flow in abundance:

Giving: Active state. Someone is actively giving something to someone else. Eg you give your client a treatment. When you just pop a grape in someone’s mouth unexpectedly, you are giving.

Receiving: paired with giving. The open mouth for the grape is receiving; the person having the treatment is receiving it. No need to do anything except be open (yr mouth, body, heart, bank account)

Taking: Again active, deliberate, definite. Your partner says ‘do you want some of my chips?’ and you reach out and take them off the plate. It wouldn’t happen without you taking.

Offering: paired with taking – it’s passive, and open. Your partner is the one doing the offering.

Still: nothing moving. Can be consciously still and peaceful, or stagnation, depending on circumstances.

These go together when they are in correct pairings. But what about when you give something to someone who doesn’t want it? Eg better to offer advice, before giving it, as in ‘Would you like advice about your health?’ When they say yes, then you’ve done the offering and taking; and move into the giving and receiving.

The reason this is important in your business is that traditionally marketing has been about trying to give people stuff they don’t particularly want, and persuading them they do want it. Hence pushy sales people and irritation with advertising. Much better to think of what you can firstly offer to your clients, so they can have the option of taking your offer; then giving something say for free, so they have the option of receiving it. That way you build a relationship, and as people buy from those whom they trust, you have a much better chance of people eventually buying off you.

2. Flow of abundance: What gets in the way of allowing?

Ex: Attitude to plenty of money.

Notice instinctive responses to the following statements re money in your business:

I feel great about making lots of profit

I must make sure I don’t get to the VAT limit otherwise I’ll have all that hassle

If I make lots of profits I’ll have to pay more tax, and I don’t want that

Doing what I love will never bring in plenty of money

I’m just not meant to have loads of money

I find the whole issue of pricing very difficult

I’m very happy charging at the highest level for my services

Use some of the techniques from your handbook to let go of any habitual negative thoughts or attitudes you have in relation to these statements.

3. How do you ‘do’ allowing?

a) Leaning into it

‘Leaning into it creates momentum’. (Jack Canfield, The Success Principles). This is like the Step by Step Rich thoughts process, or moving step by step up the emotional guidance scale by looking for a better feeling thought. You just lean towards where you want to go.

Momentum is the unseen energy force that brings more opportunities, more resources, more people who can help you in your life at seemingly just the right time for you to benefit from most of them.

b) Body language – mind language (notice your thoughts and feelings, and are they in line with the experience of allowing, being, open, being willing to receive).

“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” –Mahatma Gandhi

c) Gratitude

Robert Emmons, psychology professor at the University of California, Davis, In his book, Thanks! How the New Science of Gratitude Can Make You Happier, wrote, “Our groundbreaking research has shown that grateful people experience higher levels of positive emotions such as joy, enthusiasm, love, happiness, and optimism, and that the practice of gratitude as a discipline protects a person from the destructive impulses of envy, resentment, greed, and bitterness.”

Studies have shown that people who cultivate gratitude by keeping a weekly gratitude list exercise more, feel more optimistic, come closer to attaining their personal goals, and generally have higher levels of vitality and well-being. People who keep daily gratitude lists get all this good stuff, plus they report more enthusiasm, attentiveness, alertness and general energy.

How does gratitude manifest in business? Lots of ways, but most impt is paying yourself first

1. Paying yourself first

What it means for the self-employed person:

a) pay yourself a salary – and be grateful

b) pay yourself savings – and be grateful

c) pay yourself money for tax – and be grateful

The amount is not important, it’s the dedication, the discipline and the habit of thinking this way that is important. Set it up on a s/o basis and choose to feel grateful everytime you do it. You are demonstrating to the Universe that you put yourself first, and that you are diligent with money.

Below is a link to a good article explaining the practical reasons why this is a good idea.

http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2008/06/16/personal-finance-made-easy-pay-yourself-first/

How to pay yourself first:

SET UP

1. Have a personal account separate from your business one

2. Have a personal current account and a personal savings account

3. (can be developed into different savings accounts for various projects, such as holidays, tithing, household repairs, investment etc)

4. Business account needs: current, savings and tax (and you can set up other accounts too under this heading, maybe bursaries, capital purchases, client gifts etc)

5. Make sure you can transfer online between them all

6. Visit bank to have them show you how to do it online if you don’t know

PERCENTAGES

Taxes: (remember what you are paying for and be grateful– eg pavements etc)

Amt Depends on income: 15–25% probably.

Business Savings %age: 10% recommended, start with anything that feels significant and good

Personal savings: suggested 10%

DOING IT! (ie PAYING YOURSELF FIRST!)

1. Make sure all your income goes into your business current account, including cash.

2. Set up standing orders/transfers for the different percentages based on your average monthly income (or you can do this manually each month, but the temptation there will be to start fiddling around with the percentages, or not do it at all. S/O’s are not about not thinking about it monthly, because you will be checking your accounts at least each month to see what is going on and how good it is feeling to take charge of your finances.

3. Pay an amount based on your needs into your personal current a/c (just as if you were receiving a salary)

4. Calculate the amount you will have in your tax account, your business savings account and your personal savings account after a year to show you where you are headed to. Notice how you feel doing this.

Quote from Abraham, 24^th October 2004 www.abraham-hicks.com

‘99.99% of your creation is complete before you see ANY physical evidence of it. When you desire with belief, it’s happening. When you desire with hope, it’s happening slower. When you desire with doubt, it’s so slow, you might as well think about something else.

When you want something and you don’t believe it, it’s as good as not coming! When you want something and hope, it’s coming — but you’ve got to be patient. When you want something and you know it’s coming, patience isn’t a factor because it’s coming quickly enough that evidence is showing up all over the place. So your optimism is easy to feel when you see evidence.

This workshop is called the art of allowing and what it really is is the art of allowing your feeling of well-being before the evidence. The art of allowing your connection to what it is you want before everybody else agrees that it’s a sure thing.’

If you like the Abraham material, here is a good link to a Law of Allowing audio/video description

http://www.holisticliving.co.nz/members/holisticliving/videos/VIEW/00000174/The-Law-of-Allowing—Abraham—Esther-and-Jerry-Hicks.html

Inspired Actions

1. Set yourself up to pay yourself first if you’re not already doing it

2. Start operating a gratitude list at the end of each day

3. Explore attitudes and beliefs towards money