RichThinking Way Feelings Week 7.

NOTES

Using feelings you’d rather not have to grow yourselves & the business.

It is NORMAL to have ‘stuff’ come up when you start focusing on what you do actually want. This is the healing process, like stirring up the mud at the bottom of the pond – things rise to the service to be aired, examined, and released. This is healing.

Resistance leads to suffering. And what you resist, persists. That means that if you don’t embrace what you don’t like, it continues making it’s presence felt. Stop pushing against what you don’t like and invite it in instead.

“You have an inner guidance system that lets you know in every moment how you are holding your energy. Resistance (negative emotion) means you are thinking a thought that is not in vibrational harmony with who you really are” Abraham-Hicks

Negative emotions are simply signs that you have unplugged from the source. Don’t get mad at the messenger, like when you judge yourself for feeling bad; or get angry with yourself for feeling afraid. Instead recognise them as useful.

Byron Katie in Loving What Is says: resistance is arguing with reality.

“I have never experienced a stressful feeling that wasn’t caused by attaching to an untrue thought. Behind every uncomfortable feeling there’s a thought that isn’t true for us. Rather than understand the original cause – a thought – we try to change our stressful feelings by looking outside ourselves. We try to change someone else, or we reach for sex, food, alcohol, drugs, or money in order to find temporary comfort and the illusion of control … It is easy to be swept away by some overwhelming feeling, so its helpful to remember that any stressful feeling is like a compassionate alarm clock that says ‘You’re caught in the dream’. Depressions, pain, and fear are gifts that say ‘sweetheart, take a look at your thinking right now. You’re living in a story that isn’t right for you’.

Louise Hay in You Can Heal Your Life says ,

“What you can feel, you can heal. I tell people that any reaction they may feel is there to show them they are already in the process of healing even though the total healing is not yet completed.”

Watch out for the 4 W’s: wishing, wanting, wondering and worrying — and how they interfere with your success. See here for article.

3 ways to use your negative emotions so they work FOR you in your business, not against you.

1. EFT emotional freedom technique. Moving energy with the body.

EFT is an emotional version of acupuncture wherein certain meridian points are stimulated by tapping on them with your fingertips. Since emotional stress can contribute to pain, disease and physical ailments, it’s often found that EFT provides quick emotional and physical relief. See www.emofree.com.

2. Welcoming in our negative emotions as showing up in our sub-personalities

Debbie Ford: The Dark Side of the Light Chasers

“Discovering the gifts of even our most hated qualities is a creative process that needs only a deep desire to listen and learn, a willingness to release dysfunctional judgements and beliefs, and a readiness to feel better. Your true self makes no judgements. Only our fear-driven egos use judgments to protect us – protection that ironically prevents us from self-realisation. We must be prepared to love all that we have feared”. The Dark Side of the Light Chasers. Website: www.debbieford.com

What are sub-personalities? We all have a persona, a social mask that we present to the world, even to our best friends. Behind this, we have all sorts of different sub– personalities each one with a face of it’s own. By having internal dialogues with these characters you begin the process of acknowledging their existence, hence they do not need to badger you for attention any more. It works like this:

a) acknowledge what you are feeling

b) stop going round and round in the feeling by the acknowledging of it

c) admit it to yourself (repeating it over and over if necessary)

d) let yourself feel it

e) meet the sub-personality representing this emotion

f) have a conversation with this aspect of yourself

g) receive the hidden gift

h) move forwards

Visualisation: Meeting with the hidden gift of your feelings

Suggested questions to ask:

Who in me is the one who is feeling this?

What part of me is feeling this?

Bring to mind a thought, an image or a sense of who this might be.

Ask what their name is.

What feeling do you represent? (if it’s not already clear to you)

What do you want to say to me?

I’m listening to you – what do you have to tell me?

What do you need to be whole?

What do you need to become friends with me?

What is your gift for me?

Is there anything else you would like to say to me?

3. Byron Katie’s ‘The Work’ www.thework.com (Loving What Is)

Asks 4 questions, and your answers can bring you freedom from your judgments. Download the free document at her website re this process. Very useful particularly if you are finding yourself with judgments towards someone else.

4 questions:

a) Is that really true

b) Can I know, with my hand on my heart, and coming from a place of my highest self, that this is absolutely true?

c) Who would I be without this thought?

d) How do I react when I think this thought?

Turnaround

Inspired actions this week

Use one of these techniques to make friends with your challenging feelings!