Getting Out of Your Own Way

Welcome to the November issue of RichThinking Times (No 13) — and the last one! Yes, this is because I am revamping my entire
website and way of doing things, and one of the things that is changing is the RT Times. Instead of a monthly newsletter, you will receive a shorter weekly email entitled Spirit of RichThinking; it will still have lots of useful ideas for you, and articles — but it’ll
mean it will take you less time to read it, while allowing me to still stay in touch with you regularly.

I hope you like it, and any feedback or contributions are always welcome! Meanwhile, this month here’s what I have to offer you:

Contents:

1. Last chance for the coaching circle!

2. Amazing new programme: The RichThinking Way

3. Article: Getting Out Of Your Own way

4. Special deal on face to face amazing workshop!

1. Last chance to join Develop Your Business Coaching Circle
at the amazing price of only £97. Because of the changes I’m making, this is the last time I’ll be offering this particular Circle at this price. Next year it’ll be more of an interactive coaching-style content, and more expensive too. Visit www.richthinkers.co.uk/coachingcircles for more info or email me direct. Only 3 places left!

2. New programme: The RichThinking Way (very exciting!)

Yes — I emailed you earlier about this, as I’m running a pilot programme initially, and inviting you to co-create this 12 week teleclass with me. If you missed the earlier email, and want to know more about how your thoughts, feelings and actions either contribute to your business or detract from it, then contact me.

3. Article: Getting Out of Your Own Way: letting go of struggle and effort

It’s very common to see business people, especially these days, putting in the hours, working hard and generally not enjoying
themselves very much. Especially if you have a belief that good things only come to those who work hard, then that’s the
experience you’ll have. If you knew there was an easier way to get what you wanted, wouldn’t you want to know? Well there is. But first of all it’s important to understand why we stand in our own way of getting what we want.

Firstly, it’s because we’re taught to do exactly that. It doesn’t look like that – what it looks like is being told this is the way it is; you have to work long and hard to make it in the world; you mustn’t get above your station; riches are not for you – any number of beliefs. If you come from a background where there was anything less than spectacular encouragement for you to be, do or have anything you wanted, then you will be standing in your own way at some level.

So we stand in our own way because we’ve learnt to. And just like we learnt to, we can unlearn to. And we do that by turning
our heads and swivelling round to focus on something apparently completely different. Instead of focusing on what you think you want, you focus instead on being the feeling you think the thing you want will bring you.

Let’s unpack that a bit with an example. Let’s say you want to grow your business, having 10 more clients. Normally, everyone
would probably encourage you to spend more money on advertising and marketing your product or service, so that these ten clients
will be attracted to you. You might think of doing an extra mailshot or two; or networking even more – whatever it is, it is likely to take up more of your time. If you’re already working long hours, then this is not going to be appealing at all. But this is what you have to do to get more clients, isn’t it?

No. Because it only may, or may not, bring results. And even if it does bring the results, ie ten more clients and the resulting increase in income, it will also likely bring more hours of work, more costs, and even possibly more hassle. And you weren’t even sure that your efforts would pay off in the first place! Seems to me to be quite a gamble.

Getting out of your own way and creating what you want from the inside out means you start to focus on something else entirely. Think of the feeling you will have when you have the ten clients. What might that be? Satisfaction, secure, proud, more confident, busy, happy, fulfilled – whatever comes to mind, you name it. You’ll also notice that one (or possibly two) of these feelings will ring true more than the others. This is the essence of what you say you want. This is what is behind you being in your own way.
Test it out now – if you already had that feeling, let’s say it’s confidence, even without the ten clients, you’d be at least half
way there, wouldn’t you?

Sounds simple, doesn’t it? And it is. But it’s not quite so easy to put into practice, because practice is the third part of the process
involved in getting out of your own way. Practice feeling the feeling you say you want, as if it were already happening right now. So you
get to feel confident, by invoking those feelings in you, on a daily basis. And you do this by imagining, daily, that you already havewhat you said you wanted, ie the ten clients, and the feeling that this brings.

Because you have turned upside down the common belief of HAVE, DO, BE (ie get the thing you want, then you can do what you want to do, and be the way you want to be – and it’s a belief that is running Western society, if not the world), then you are already BE-ing what you want, and this then provides you with the inspiration to DO some actions that are in line with what you say you are wanting. And finally, these actions are more than likely to end up in you HAV-ing the actual thing you said you wanted in it’s practical form, ie the ten
clients.

Now, when this happens, what really is amazing is that often the person finds they don’t really want ten more clients any more. Perhaps 5 would have done just fine. This is because they have already got what they really, deep down, truly wanted, which was more confidence. And when you have what you really wanted all the time, what you previously couldn’t see because you were getting in your own way, why would you want anything else? This doesn’t mean to say you don’t have to have your ten clients but that if you do want them, they then become a bonus on top of everything else.

4. Special Workshop in the Lake District
I’m delighted to tell you about a great one dayface to face workshop happening in the Lake District with a colleague of mine. If you’d like to connect experientially with the answers to questions such as Where am I now, and where do I want to be? in relation to your business, then I strongly encourage you to find out more.

Tony Ingleby, my colleague and leader for the day, has had over 35 years of experience in the business sector, and this is just one of many quotes about him and his work:

‘the best development day we have experienced, bar none’

spoken by 32 managers on a day very similar to the ones he is offering now. AND — although the day costs £175, you, as my guest, get to go for just £125! Dates are 1st, 8th, 15th and 17th December, and I encourage you to ring Tony to get a taste of him for yourself.
Do let me know if you will be there — I am attending the one this week on 5th November. Tony’s no. is
Or alternatively, contact me.