Dare To Have What You Want

‘You can have what you want’.

When I was first faced with this statement, I found myself getting absolutely furious! The fury was so out of proportion that I knew something else was interfering. I was arguing madly for why exactly I could not have what I wanted, at the same time as wondering what on earth I was doing! On the surface, it seems such an obvious statement. For me, though, it represented a realm of possibility that I found immensely scary.

How do you react to it? Do you think, ‘Oh fantastic!’ Or ‘Of course!’ Perhaps there’s something in between like, ‘Mmm – what exactly do I want anyway?’ Or maybe you already know. If you find you’re having difficulty with this statement like I did, then ask yourself the following: if I could have whatever I wanted, what would it be? And make a list. It may be a list of things, or of experiences, or a mixture. Take the time to acknowledge the feelings around each of the things on your list, or if you haven’t been able to make a list, then notice the feelings you have that are causing this. When I first created my list, when I first dared to make this statement and attempt to provide an answer, the feelings that arose for me were so strong that I just had to back off a bit. That may happen, or a version of it, to you too. Simply notice what the feelings are and stay with them for now. Whatever you are feeling, it’s OK. In order to know where you’re going and what you want in life, you have to know where you are now, where you are starting from. This last sentence is so crucial I’ll repeat it: in order to know where you’re going and what you want in life, you have to know where you are now, where you are starting from. It’s not any different from any kind of travel – if you want to know how to get to San Diego, California, you need to know where you are starting from in the world. This, however, is inner travel, and the landmarks around you are your thoughts and feelings. So let all those feelings in, whether they be excitement, fear, passion, happiness, pain or what. Notice if you’re censoring any thoughts. If so, are you willing to let yourself have those thoughts? When I first noticed this, it was around creating the house that I wanted. I really had to dare to allow myself to imagine exactly what I wanted, despite thoughts of “You’ll never find it in this town’, “That’s much too big for you”, “How can you justify that”.

Notice what your thoughts are and make a note of the thoughts that are getting in the way of your wants being manifest right now. These are the blockages to you getting what you want. So really observe yourself, and note them down.

Some years ago, I was in a money workshop, and dared to allow myself to think about the size of house I wanted. I drew a picture of a large house, many rooms, swimming pool, a Jaguar car, surrounded by lots of lovely countryside, plenty of land for the numerous horses I was going to have, etc etc. In front of the others, it felt very daring to admit I wanted what was for me, at that time, an ostentatious lifestyle. But it also felt very freeing to be able to admit it and have this desire witnessed by others. It is only when we let ourselves really imagine what we want that we can begin to attract it to us. For me, the funny thing was that when I really allowed this image in, I discovered that to have this particular scenario happen, I would need quite a large staff. That would bring considerable responsibility. I didn’t mind having staff in a business, but having them running my house did not feel so good, and consequently I chose to scale down what I wanted in my home life to something that didn’t require staff. For example, I really prefer swimming in the sea – so I moved my imaginings to another country and a house without a swimming pool, but next to a private beach!

So, if you can, write down what you want, knowing you can change and refine it. Whether you’ve managed this or not, what you’ll next need is tools to help you along on your journey. There’s a huge variety of different things out there, including RichThinking in all its various ways. Use as many techniques and other help that you can, and remember that enjoying the journey is nearly the whole point, because what do we do when we’ve got to where we want to be? We find another journey to have fun with!