How to swop words around for real business success

RichThinking Times Issue 4: February 2009

As I write this month’s RichThinking Times, I am sitting in a beachfront café in the south of Spain, gazing out at the sun shining on a turquoise sea. Philip and I have been here for 2 weeks and going home in a day or two; I didn’t want to take time off work, so I agreed to come on the basis that there would be an internet connection, and that I could still make my coaching calls.

What I didn’t bargain for is my disinterest in doing any work of any kind if the sun is shining! I guess I am feeling deprived of hot sun since we moved to northern Scotland.

Anyway, those of you following my progress from the beginning will know that one of my intentions with RichThinkers was to set up systems that would enable business to be conducted even if I wasn’t there. There’s some way to go with this, but with sales of my manual happening as I walk down the beach, it’s a good feeling, I can tell you! And you can set your business up this way too. It’s one of the things I’ll tell you about in the Outer Tools of Success, which I’m currently writing. I’m really pleased with how it’s going – together with the first part of the manual, the inner tools of success, this will provide all that is needed to take your business a giant leap forward! Watch this space for more info.

Hope you enjoy the article this month.

Warm regards

Jane

Article: How to swop words around for real business success

As you know, the way you use words in your thoughts and what you say out loud can have a huge impact on how successful you are. This is because everyone has associations with the words that they use. So for example, one person will feel fine using the word ‘rich’ while another would find it offensive. But how can you use your words to create more business success?

First of all, you have to catch yourself saying or thinking the words that might be inadvertently limiting you. Examples of these are: problem, can’t, ought, should, wish, not fair.

You can train yourself to catch the words you use to describe situations by listening to yourself, and one of the best ways to do this is to talk out loud to yourself. OK, do it when you’re alone or you might get some funny looks! But seriously, talking out loud is a great way to find out what kinds of words you use. So next time you’re stumped in your business about what to do next, or you think you can’t see a way out of the situation you’re in, say out loud what you’re thinking, and listen to yourself.

Next step is to change whatever words you find that are limiting. Here’s some examples:

Change struggling to taking the next step.

Replace should with could.

Transform I can’t to I won’t.

I need - do you really need? What about I want, or I would like instead?

I ought to can become I could.

People who are pains in the neck can become your teachers.

Instead of saying I have to, say I get to.

Change I wish… to I commit to… (that’ll sort out whether you really want that thing you’re wishing for or not!)

Refer to problems or setbacks as opportunities or challenges.

Never demand anything — rather say I would appreciate it if....

Use consequences from events rather than failure.

Change this is no good, to what I find good in this is…

Amend It’s not fair (which is just another version of ‘poor me syndrome’) to focusing on what is great about your situation by saying What I do have is…

Try reading these words out loud right now and notice the difference in how they make you feel. This is not only because of the associations we have with different words, but also because of the vibration belonging to different words. You can hear it really clearly with the words I should as opposed to I could. The first one is about blaming, feeling bad, being stuck, while the second brings opportunity, hope and a way out.

It’s well known that success is at least 70% in the mind — so bring your thoughts and words in line with the success that you want in your life, and watch things starting to change!

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Jane Rogers is an expert in helping people identify what words they use that trip them up, and refocusing them on what to say, think and do to become even more successful. Sign up at her website www.richthinkers.co.uk for her free report 7 Steps to Thinking Rich.

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